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Originally Posted by Gracie2006  One thing jumped out at me, the word "permission". Since when does an adult need permission from anyone to do anything? Yes, you live together. That does not make "him" a "king" and give him permission to rule over all that live there. Perhaps you could find some middle ground. Maybe there is one room that will be off limits to the dog. If it were me, I would be thinking about getting some counseling. If he is like this with the dog, what other ways will he try to control you? I worry when this topic comes up. I have a girlfriend who was abused by her husband for many years before she finally had her fill and left him. She always had to get "permission" to spend money, to go out with her friends, to get a pet, to get her ears pierced, to do anything! Proceed with caution girl friend! |
I know this definitely also worries me
I know he "says" that it's because we can't afford to have "so many" dogs in the house (it would only be 2 or 3! that's not a lot!!!) but he just HATES little dogs and I can't break him of it! He really thinks they're rats. And he doesn't understand the concept of pampering them like I do. I'm all about that. He's definitely not abusive in any way, but this just annoys me! I guess I just thought he'd never find out about the money thing, because even if I told him he'd flip out. I don't need permission for anything else at all, but to him dogs are this HUGE responsibility and HUGE investment and HUGE money burden. To me, they're responsibility but I love that responsibility! I don't think they're a burden, when I take them everywhere with me anyway! I just feel so sad about it because he knows how much dogs are my only passion in life, and I don't understand why he can't accept this. The money thing scares me too because what if it was a big purchase, like when we need a refrigerator, or a new house, or a car? Am I supposed to wait for him to see the car I want so I can "get it"? Ugh. It's not like we're in a new relationship either, we've been together for almost 5 years.