I read alot of the replies and I can't believe what kids think is ok these days

I'm not a grandmother and I'm FAR from old fashioned but what I just read really blew me away.
my feeling is Parents need to get hold of these kids and stop this kind of behaviour BEFORE it gets to the point where a kid is old enough to cuss them out and it should
never be normal to speak that way to adults.
I'm super close to my boys and they've never EVER talked to me like what I read in this thread and I'd be devestated ....just like my mother would be devestated if I ever spoke that way to her.
It's no wonder these days we hear all the stories we hear. If kids are growing up thinking this is normal behaviour they're going to have a very rude awakening or get the stuff kicked out of them one day by a MAD adult who isn't going to take that kind of talk.
and Jeannie....I would talk to your son & really lay it out for him...Your situation sounds really bad and that woman sounds just plain jealous of anyone in your sons life and that's HER problem - no woman should be so insecure she's gets between a mom and her kids no matter how old that 'kid' is.