[JeanieK]

My daughter belongs to a Baby Talk forum for pregnant women. Some of the women were telling how they tell off their mothers. Tell them to F off and Go to He** and such.

My daughter posted that she can't believe that these women actually talk to their mothers that way. She said I wouldn't dream of talking to mine that way.

They commented that it's obvious that she lets her mother walk all over her and control her. That you have to put mothers in their place or they will try to run your life. That mothers need to earn your respect that you don't just give it to them.

Obviously these women believe that all mother/daughter relationships are like this

All 5 of my daughters are very sweet, and I do not meddle in their lives. I make suggestions, they can take them or leave them. I trust that my daughters are capable of making their own decisions because I raised them to do that.

Now my DIL is disrespectful, and for the past 4 years she has been telling me what I should and should not be doing. And it has nolthing to do with raising kids. she lives in the UK. I never see her kids.

The last fight was she didn't like the way she was informed of the birth of my latest grand child and then she accused me of not having given her first kid a gift when it was born, and this escalated to her telling me she hated me, calling me a "stupid old lady" blocking all my emails and telling me I would never see my son or my grandchildren again..

The debate is. Should mothers and MILs be talked to this way or should they be respected just because they are your parents.