thank you all for your advice 
i currently use the pushpin brush... this kind 
http://www.petco.com/product_info.as...ept_id=%2D2and thats what im currently using to brush him it feels painful ... should i not be using this and using something else? 
i also got the detangler spray 
http://www.petco.com/product_info.as...3=Conditioners, i havent used it yet but imma try it soon... any advice on these products?  should i be using something else? 
also being that the weather is getting warmer should i consider bathing him (once i get the nerve and clip his nails) more often? 
being a new mom is tough.  SIGH....