Oh I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles, that has got to be so frustrating
If you start crating her is there anyway someone can come get her out mid-day to go potty? My baby is almost 12 weeks and I crate her while I'm at work. Fortunately I'm close enough to be able to come home to let her go potty and have a little lunch.
Maybe others will have a better suggestion. Good luck and hang in there!