I guess in my opinion a cheater is different than a liar. Lying is no good FOR SURE but maybe not enough to leave someone over. We ALL make stupid mistakes sometimes. If he is a good guy 99% of the time, and this time he made a major error in judgement...then I say forgive him. You know in your heart of hearts if he is trustworthy or not. Im sure he feels like a tard...he knows he was caught in his dumb lie and should have just come forward but sometimes we feel so stupid in our lie and are just embarrassed to admit our stupidity. You have to do what you feel is right...we all have gut instincts but dont judge him by past losers in your life..you know what I mean? Tell him how important being totally honest is and why and that breaking trust with you is BIG...without trust you dont have much. Do you trust him? I mean a strip club is nothing but a bunch of women gettting paid to make men drool over them...do you trust he doesnt cheat on you? Did you trust him before this incident? I guess there are lots of questions only you can answer for yourself. I feel your pain of being lied to...but if you trusted him before...he must have been a pretty good guy that made a idiot mistake of lying...and I think we have all done that at one time or another..good luck with whatever happens!! Hugs!!
Dawn |