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Originally Posted by FlDebra Why is it so important for you to have YOUR way on how the dogs are given treats? If he has been doing this for 10 years with his dog and the dog is not overweight, what is the real problem? Are the treats nutritious? Causing any health issues? Causing the dog not to eat dog food?
Marriage is about compromise. You have different "treat beliefs" --that is a pretty small thing in the grand scheme of things. Give a little. Maybe agree on a smaller, less filling treat. But if he wants to "treat" his dog -- let him do it. As for yours..... if you want to limit the treats, fine but.... why not let him give a few? Will it really hurt?
Before I let the "treats" issue become a instigating argument leading to your daughter, I would learn to compromise. Being "right" is not always what it is about. |
take it easy buddy, that's not what i am getting at here. first of all, his dog is overweight. the problem is that his dog is very demanding about getting treats. his dog is very food motivated. my dog has never been that way and i see her starting to take on some of those habits. i don't want that. and I dont want maggie to act that way either. i am not saying he cannot give his dog treats, i just dont want to do it with my dogs. we have a wonderful marriage and completely understand compromise. i dont think it is fair for you to judge my marriage like that.
he has agreed with me on the treats issue. he has seen how his dog has changed due to my training. he has made many comments about how he could never train his dog and when I came along, he noticed a world of difference. He this is the only dog he has ever owned and he got this dog through a relationship gone bad. he had no idea how to train him but just went along by what was easy. he will admit this.l i am not making him conform to my demands by any means. i have talked to him about this to a small degree in the past and he agreed. but then he went back to it after a couple of days because his dog demanded it. this is the problem i have. i do not know how to talk to him in a way that will be effective in this situation. if he was in total disagreement on the issue, it would be a totally different story. i would respect his position...as I have on many many other issues. I understand that we are different people and we agree that we will not always see eye to eye. that is fine. But i feel that i have a right to express how I want my dogs trained...seeing as I have had great luck with my methods in the past. i would like to continue with those methods.nothing wrong with that.