I tend to agree with Erin that the whole name thing just doesn't seem like a big deal. We already have a joint bank account with our different last names (as Erin mentioned). And that works out great.
As for kids, they would definately take my husband's last name.
It isn't as though I am AGAINST taking his last name, but I don't see "tradition" as a good enough reason to change it. I am very thankful that my boyfriend will support me in whatever I choose. That is a big part of why I believe he is right for me. Personally, I don't think I could marry someone who questioned my love for him just because I wanted to keep my last name. To me, I can love him the same with my last name or with his.
But I can see both sides too. I came from a very traditional family. If I decide to keep my last name, I would be the only one in my family to have done so.
I guess I basically feel that if a woman wants to change her last name, then GREAT for her! But I also feel that if a woman doesn't want to, she shouldn't be looked down on.
I want to thank everyone for their responses. I am going to give this more thought before I make a decision. I definately agree with what most people have said: It is between my boyfriend and me. Things are different for any couple so they just have to find what works best for them. There is no right/wrong answer here!
