Not changing your name is not a big deal. I think it's disrespectful to insist a woman change her whole identity if it means a lot to her - it should be a choice. Seriously, it's no big deal.
Someone called tonight and asked for me and then asked if my husband was Mr. MYlastname. He said no, this is Mr. HISlastname. (And laughed because it was obvious the sales person didn't know us.) Anyone who knows us knows our names and we just politely correct people who assume. We've actually found it helpful in many situations.
Please don't feel bad about wanting to keep your name. My husband's reaction was similar to your boyfriend's. Kind of like, well it would be nice but if that's what you want to do it's fine. He even corrects people for me and introduces me with my last name. I really like my name and almost 3 years later I'm still really happy I didn't change it. We are still just as married! |