 Alzheimers
Is anyone here dealing with a parent who has Alzheimers?
I live in Illinois and my mother lives in Florida. I just recently had to file for guardianship and put her in an assisted living facility. She is a brittle diabetic and wasn't taking her medications. She was also driving her car after her license was suspended. Fortunately she hasn't killed anyone. Before I went to court she almost burned her house down. She lit a pile of wood (That was right beside the house) and just walked off and left it.
Things are not going well. I am the only one taking any responsibility for her and she is the angry bitter type of victim. I might as well be the devil in her eyes. I call her and she hangs up on me or she cries that she is being held prisoner. She doesn't comprehend what is happening to her. She has talked to my husband and has told him some outlandish things but stayed in a fairly good mood while on the phone. Lately, however, she has been crying during the whole conversation.
Having to handle things long distance is both a curse and a blessing. The curse being that I have no way of knowing when she is telling me the truth. She says they don't feed her and they don't give her her medicine etc. When I put her in there I personally talked to many of the guest there to see how they liked it and they ALL said the liked (some loved) it. It is a beautiful facility and she has her own little studio apartment. I have given permission for her friends to pick her up for church on Sundays and Wednesdays and out to dinner if they want to, but she says they lock them out and no one has been to see her.
I'm not looking for any solutions but it would be nice to have someone who is going through the same thing for a friend.
Thanks for reading this.
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