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Mr.MonsterMom · 12-22-2006, 01:07 PM

I think what is most difficult for me, is that we adopted Monster together, and when Adam says "Becca, you need to stop thinking about your dog so much" I want to smack him and say "He is OUR dog!"...and then when it comes to him calling me irrational - it's not so much that I feel he won't fight for our dog, but he won't even demand an explanation for my own personal peice of mind. There is no old aunt, no allergies, just a giant house upstate.

It's funny how his family is saying this right after we announced our engagment, when they have never been very big fans of me. I understand that I cannot allow my dog to to become a little dictator over my life and that my relationship with my future husband is more important than how I treat my dog, but I'm now paranoid that this will continue to happen and I don't want anyone else to be able to use Monster as a tool to cause conflict between us.

Then there are people telling me that I'm over thinking this entire situation. It's the holidays and I feel like it's the first Christmas of the rest of our lives - how can I put up with this year after year? Everything was so exciting for us and I'm just angry that anything could ruin it.

I explained the situation to his mother like this: We're going to be gone for three days, finding a kennel is absolutely out of the question and I cannot impose Monster on my parents for that long when they also have their own plans and he is such a high maitenance dog. I asked incredibly nicely for her to reconsider for the sake of everyone being able to be together. She said she would call back.

I also admire my fiance so much because when he saw how much this really upset me and how hard I tried to come to a conclusion to make everyone happy, he said that if his mother continued to say no to Monster, then the three of us would stay home. I know he's completely genuine and wouldn't offer if he felt obligation over want, but I would still feel guilty for taking him away from his family - when now, they're supposed to be becoming my family.

Haha, I'm sorry, I know this isn't exactly a "Yorkie" problem, but I have nowhere else to vent, and other pet owners are really the only ones who can understand. Thanks so much for all of your input.

12-22-2006, 01:07 PM	#10
Mr.MonsterMom Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: CT Posts: 32	I think what is most difficult for me, is that we adopted Monster together, and when Adam says "Becca, you need to stop thinking about your dog so much" I want to smack him and say "He is OUR dog!"...and then when it comes to him calling me irrational - it's not so much that I feel he won't fight for our dog, but he won't even demand an explanation for my own personal peice of mind. There is no old aunt, no allergies, just a giant house upstate. It's funny how his family is saying this right after we announced our engagment, when they have never been very big fans of me. I understand that I cannot allow my dog to to become a little dictator over my life and that my relationship with my future husband is more important than how I treat my dog, but I'm now paranoid that this will continue to happen and I don't want anyone else to be able to use Monster as a tool to cause conflict between us. Then there are people telling me that I'm over thinking this entire situation. It's the holidays and I feel like it's the first Christmas of the rest of our lives - how can I put up with this year after year? Everything was so exciting for us and I'm just angry that anything could ruin it. I explained the situation to his mother like this: We're going to be gone for three days, finding a kennel is absolutely out of the question and I cannot impose Monster on my parents for that long when they also have their own plans and he is such a high maitenance dog. I asked incredibly nicely for her to reconsider for the sake of everyone being able to be together. She said she would call back. I also admire my fiance so much because when he saw how much this really upset me and how hard I tried to come to a conclusion to make everyone happy, he said that if his mother continued to say no to Monster, then the three of us would stay home. I know he's completely genuine and wouldn't offer if he felt obligation over want, but I would still feel guilty for taking him away from his family - when now, they're supposed to be becoming my family. Haha, I'm sorry, I know this isn't exactly a "Yorkie" problem, but I have nowhere else to vent, and other pet owners are really the only ones who can understand. Thanks so much for all of your input.