Kathryn-
Thanks for taking the time to PM me.
Although I still stand by the point I was trying to make and don't understand your choice, you gave me some other insight to some non related situations that have made me understand some of your other problems you've shared with us here. Despite my opinions regarding this specific topic, I wish you the best and hope you and your family have a great holiday season.
Congrats to your husband on his new opportunities.