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Originally Posted by Rae Rae Thanks girls!
Hiring a cleaning lady is out of the question..it's really not in our budget. It's not that I don't clean..it's just that he says I don't clean. He's very anal with his cleaning ways, and when this all began and I told him that I'll clean during the day he was asking me "well how do you clean?"..literally wanting to know the steps of how I clean! We got into an arguement on the way home tonight actually over this.
It started when I told him I'm going to bring Gizmo over during the day when I'm at home so him and Rocky can play, plus he can get used to my house so when my parents go out of town next summer, he'll be comfortable here (last time he freaked out). MY boyfriends response was "As long as you clean up after him" so I said "OK DAD...I wasn't asking your permission, I was telling you" so it just kinda went from there, and he brought up how HE cleans the house and I supposedly don't. Everything he named he does, I'm like "I do that, I do that too, etc". So then hes all "well I dont like coming home to a messy house" and I said "well I don't like you messing up the kitchen after I clean it!" Then he says he was going to clean up his mess later, and I said he shoulda done it asap. I had the last word.
Were better now (we honestly don't fight much, so that's kinda big for us, LOL). Hopefully tomarrow we'll talk about it more. It's just pissing me off because we've discussed this before, and I told him how his remarks make me feel, and he said he'll work on them and "allowing" me to do the cleaning, but he has no progress what-so-ever.  |
I totally understand because those are the exact sentences my hubby use too!!!!
"well how do you clean?"..
If our white stove has a few spots on it because I was cooking, he would be asking..I would be like, its white!!! He expects me to clean it every single day. I do wipe it but not scrub it every single day! So once, he was picking about it, I was like, "You can do it for today" and he cleaned it once and never made a beep now about it anymore.Its not like I sit at home do nothing. I do my work but scrubbing the stove everyday is too much.
"As "well I dont like coming home to a messy house"
Again, its not like I don't clean the house. It has to be perfect for him. With the amount of space we have in a condo, its really not easy. He doesn't do it everyday but when he is in a picking mood, you'd be dead. He'd be like "If you can't do it, I'll do it on my own"...the last time I ran out of patience, I am like "Fine.Go ahead"
If they offer to do it and they think they can do better than you do, don't feel offended. Let them do it!
Trust me, it'll help them to understand.