Rae Rae -- I think you are doing your very best - plus you have learned a lot and improving all the time.
I think your boyfriend needs to think this through a little more and be more appreciative of you.
And, unfortunately, if he doesn't learn to appreciate you rather than critize you so much - I don't think you'll ever really be happy. A lot of criticism take the fun out of everything you're learning and working hard to do.
I NEVER tell people to go to a counselor -- but I think you and your boyfriend might benefit from one. He really needs to have a third party point out to him - how much he is hurting your feelings and your relationship with his criticism. (Gor his sake, I'd probably go to a male counselor - just so he won't think the "girls" are ganging up on him.) Plus - you may benefit from counseling too - and perhaps learn some things that you can do differently.
But then - counseling costs money too - doesn't it? Darn.
Good luck - all relationships need a lot of love and a lot of work. But one person can never do it all....
Carol Jean |