Hire a cleaning lady.
It's all about the attitude you both have. You have to be able to talk about it. Tell him you are domestically challenged and ask him if you can get a cleaning person or ask which jobs he doesn't want to have to do when he gets home. He can't reasonably expect you to keep everything clean every day but you have to have the discussion. (Like, I have to have a clean kitchen and I like clean clothes put away, but dusting and bathrooms are on the "when I feel like it" list.) I literally had to explain to my husband why we need to vacuum at least once a week. Any less than that and the carpet gets nasty. I just assumed he knew that, but he didn't. It sounds like you two need to have these little discussions.