Girl - I'm in the same boat with 38 DD borderline DDD and I HATE the bras in our size.
I've found BALI does make some pretty ones and that's the one I always go back to - They have some that are semi Demi - I even found leopard and sexy black ones - the store we had was called FOLEYS - which is now Macy's & Dillards sells them too -
and you're so right on Victoria Secret - WHY DON'T they have the bigger sizes ??? I found up to a DD only in their store
and they ran small at that - I couldn't believe a store that caters to sexy can't carry bras in sizes to cover all the boob implants the world is getting -
the other thing is to try a 'strippers' boutique lol - They DO carry bigger sizes but you have to find one that doesn't charge an outrageous price and I don't think there are any like that - but that's where I got my bikinni a few years ago - Yow - it was sure sexy and a BIG waste of money considering I only wore it a few times -