Kitty you have really had some bad times lately, bless your heart...If I can give you some advice about your son, I would tell you that the next time he does something bad like hit you or his brothers, let him go live with your dad for awhile...I raised my two, boy & girl from the time they were 4&5 by myself, and I wish that I had let my dad or another male influence help me with my son...He is 20 now and is doing okay, but I know deep down inside he missed having his dad around...They really need a male to look up to or be scared of at this time, I hate to say this but at 11 your just at the beginning...Your in my prayers and thoughts and I am here for you....