I would keep my Baby....and find a way to make it work. There are great financial assistance programs for young single mothers that the government offers.
The father of your child is still legally and morally responsible for the financial care of your child in every State of this country. I would have NO issues with asking him to accept his half of his responsibility. No one "anticipates" an unwanted pregnancy.....but engaging in sexual activity...no matter what the birth control....still provides the potential for a pregnancy to occur. If he was so adamant about not wanting to father a child....then he should have practiced abstinence...or had himself sterilized. It takes TWO people to create a child. His verbage to you would have incensed me. He actually had a DISCUSSION about killing an unborn child..in the event you became Pregnant? I'm apalled as his selfishness.
I'd get every penny from that man the Law allowed....and if he wants no part of this child's rearing...then count your Blessings. You'll have a better chance of raising a loving...responsible human being...without him!
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Originally Posted by yorkieK9trainer I wouldn't need to rely on the father for financial assistance, but I would still need it if I kept her.
The father has an EXCELLENT track record in regards to income and employment. That's hasn't been an issue and I don't see it ever becoming on either! Point is, if I asked him for assitance, I know I'd get it, but I'm having issues w/ asking him to pay for something he wasn't anticipating or wanting all together.
He sites me, and just did it recently: "If I thought you wouldn't have an abortion like we discussed, then you and I never would've gotten together." That's a rule of thumb and a question he asks every girl he is interested in prior to doing anything w/ them. Funny, (not that it should matter) but I only remember this conversation taking place AFTER we had gotten together a few times...because I was on the pill-he was "safe".
Whatever. My stomach hurts again just thinking about his reactions to this whole thing. |