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Originally Posted by kitty He has been acting the same as he was before he left. He has a major attitude problem and a big mouth problem. Right now I have him washing dishes. He decided to backtalk me so I gave him a chore. I told him everytime he was disrespectful to me then he would have a job to do. |
Kitty, I'm probably going to get in trouble here, but I feel like I need to share this. I raised my 2 boys alone for 10 years. I divorced their father when my youngest was 3. My boys used to get angry with me because I didn't let them have their way. Their favorite threat was going to live with their Dad ( who didn't want them) The last time they pulled that, I packed them up and handed them the phone and told the oldest to call him. Their Dad told them they couldn't come and they thought they could use that to "guilt" me. Well, taking things away didn't work and neither did time out. I switched to spankings and that worked. I'm NOT talking about beating, I'm talking about swats on their behinds and it worked. I remarried when my oldest was 16 and my youngest was 12.
The youngest had learning disabilities which my husband and I constantly struggled with. They were good boys, and never had problems with the law or anything but did get mouthy at times.
On the day my oldest turned 18, he told me that he was going somewhere with others that I didn't approve of and I told him he couldn't go. He informed me that he was 18 and could do as he pleased. (He was still a senior in high school, was nearly 6 ft tall and weighed 200 lbs. I am 5'3") Well, I told him that as long as he lived under my roof and I fed him, he'd do as I said. He said some really hard things to me and I lost it. We were standing by the fireplace and before I knew it, I had jumped up on the hearth and cold-cocked him right in the face. I'm not talking a little slap, I'm talking drew my fist and nearly knocked him out! When he got up, he went into his room and didn't come out until late that night after my husband came in from work. He didn't speak to me for several days, but he did as I said.
A couple of weeks later he came to me and apologized for getting in my face. He told me that he appreciated me and the way I had raised him and knew I had his best interests at heart. I never had another minute's trouble with him and he graduated and went to college. He became a cop and later came to me and told me that at that particular time he had needed to know that I meant business.\
I know things are difficult for you right now, and I apologize for this long post, but you need to consider corporal punishment.