First of all I want you to know I'm glad you had the courage to tell all of us about this. We are all here for you. I just want you to know... If you want this baby, you can do it. I had a friend who got pregant at 18 and her parents flipped out... after a while they accepted it and they are wonderful to her children. You have to give your parents time to adjust to all of this. This will not be easy on them for they see there little girl in trouble. But please, please, please dont let anyone talk you into an abortion. Tell you parents that this is there grand baby. I had sister who had an abortion and it has haunted her all of her life.
If you decide that you just cant do this please consider adoption. There are soooo many wonderful people out there who cant have kids like Janet and make a wonderful life for them. There are open adoptions too. A lady that I use to work with daughter go pregant at 16... well they made her give up the baby..(which I didnt agree with. I thought it should be her choice) anyways they had an open adoption. The other parents were with her through out her pregancy and helped her out and helped her pay for her medical bills. After the baby was born they sent pictures every 3 months and still send them. It has been very hard for this young lady seeing her baby and wanting her so badly but she knows she is loved and with people who have given her a great home. The grandma regretes ever making her do the adoption thing.
What ever choice you make dont be rush rush about it. Take your time and decide what is best for you and your baby. Children was wonderful and a true mircle from God. Please tell your parents and give them time too.
You have to tell the father too. Its his baby too and you owe it to him. Let him make his own decision. After all it takes two. You should not be the only one going through all of this.
You, your baby and your parents will be in my prayers. If you ever need to talk, we will all be here. |