I am so sorry
but I'm happy to see people have been supportive
I had a very similar problem as you but I was quite a bit younger
I didn't have to make a decision, I miscarried.
that was frightening
and I heard abortions are firghtening as well.
I am not here to push my views on you, so I won't, but if you don't believe in abortions and you don't want to waste a life, but it is also hard for yuou to imagine giving up a child, and if you know that would really hurt you. Then there are "open adoptions" usually when people adopt a baby from birth, you interview the parents and PICK the parents but they havve to agree to let the child still talk to you and you still be some part of their life, even if it's small. The child will usually know you are the biological mother, but may not call you mom so that might be difficult. It's a hard decision either way
if you still think that would be very hard, you could always keep the baby.
This will be very hard, and the only way it could work for both you AND the baby is if you have a family willing to help you...You never know what your family might be willing to do.
Also remember that an aborition is not always wasting a life... in some situations it is saving a baby from a very hard life.
I urge you not to let the father influence you. I mean you think "oh it's the father" but it's your life too... and don't let him make you do ANYTHING you don't want to do.
Good luck sweetie! |