I'm so sorry about Lilly. I'm sorry you feel so disappointed about the urn. You have every right to feel this way. You should have been shown the options of urns before the cremation so you know what to expect and have a choice to make a decision. Not to mention it is so unsensitive that they couldn't spell the name correctly! That is outrageous! I would ask them to make a correction on the certificate (at no charge) and have them mail you a new one.
The people who have crematoriums are in the industry that depends on pet owners who love their pets. If a person didn't love the pet, they wouldn't have them cremated. These are OUR BABIES! and our babies DESERVES RESPECT on their final journey! They need to be be respectful both to the pet owner and the pet that passed and placed in their care.
We lost Jewel just about 8 months ago. I've been through a cremation before and was so disappointed about the "urn" (a wooden box), that when it was Jewels turn, I vowed to find a perfect resting "vessel" for her.
I used a Jewelry box. It was a gift from Dan that he got for me. It just seemed right you know? It made me feel I did something good for her. Then I made a "Memory" album of her. This was my way of saying goodbye, for now. I also have a beautiful box that I put her favorite toys in along with her dinner bowl, harness and all the card we received from family and friends. Next to the jewelry box is her picture and a cross to hold her collar and ID tag.
Take your time, no need to rush but you know what Lilly is like and you WILL find the perfect vessel for her. There is no rules or a reason to BUY a "Memorial Urn". Why get something hundreds of other people have?
Just follow your heart and find something that says "Lilly" to you. That can be your gift to her.
I want to say it will get better soon, but honostly, I don't think anything can fill that hole in your heart. I think they take a tiny bit with them to keep and cherish until we join them in Heaven.
I hope you feel better soon. Cry all you want, it helps. Write about her to us. I don't know how I could have coped with out YT. |