This is a really crappy situation and it is a difficult position you are in. But even if you were to say something to your brother and SIL, ultimately your mom will still continue to do what she does. It's an enabling pattern and she is the only one who can put an end to it. Daycare isn't inexpensive, but if they are both making $70K a year, they can certainly afford it!!! The both sound really spoiled and selfish, but they have had help getting this way.
As long as your mom is willing to continue doing this, there is really nothing you can do, except make yourself crazy over a situation you have no control.
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