Thanks everyone... another weekend came and went but my bf was only here 1 night and I kept Diezel in the living room only 1 night and he seemed totally ok with it.
However, this week while I am at work and while he sleeps with me I keep his blanket on my bed by my head and hopefully he will stay on that while sleeping in the bed with us. I cant do just his crate next to my bed because he will do nothing but bark or whine until I put him in the bed. Literally all night long. There is no ignoring him.. he is relentless and just will not stop. Anytime I am sitting or laying anywhere he freaks if he cant get on top of me.
And so no one thinks I let him just run free on this high bed, I keep my mattress and boxspring on the floor because I wanted to avoid ever having a situtaion where he gets to close to the edge and falls off. This way there should he ever fall it is not far at all. Also I have the puppy step by the bed or couch at all times