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BabyCash · 10-20-2006, 07:14 PM

I'm in no way a relationship expert but given the fact that you guys have recently starting to say "I love you" after two years, I would say give it a bit more time then have that talk that all men dread. Just be upfront and tell him how you feel about your relationship, marriage and ask him what his feelings are about marriage and whether or not he sees marriage as a potential. The only reason why I say to wait is so that he doesn't feel overwhelmed and backed into a corner since you spent two years without mentioning those 3 little words. I mean yeah, it's true that in the end "I love you" are just words and you two show each other that you love each other everyday without those words but for some guys it's a major step to even utter those words aloud. for example, my guy is an idiot. I started having conversations about marriage and after about a week, he said "the only reason that I would get married or engaged right now would be because you forced me to" and after almost 4 years of being together, that statement just about killed me. but afterwards, i realized that i gave him no choice because i backed him into a corner and he felt like he had no where to go. although, he could be the type of guy that needs assurances (fear of rejection or relationship going downhill if he does something drastic) before he does anything so that he knows your on the same wavelength. if that's the case, test the waters first. who knows maybe when you bring it up he'll be more secure and finally pop the question. My friend likes to watch "A wedding story" on TLC (I think) when her byfriend is around and say things like "oh, isn't her dress gorgeous " or "would you like something like that for your wedding?" her boyfriend usually gets the hint. as for you doing everything for him, i would suggest gradually shifting all his responsibilities back to him otherwise, he's just going to take you for granted. he needs to know that you stay and you do things for him because you love him and not because it's your job or that you have no other options. once he realizes that you're not willing to stick around forever because you're not happy with the situation, he should turn around and appreciate all the things you do for him. It is so true when the say that people want what they can't have. I always tell my friends do not settle for less than what you deserve.

sorry for the long reply but I hope this helps!
GOOD LUCK!

10-20-2006, 07:14 PM	#14
BabyCash Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 102	I'm in no way a relationship expert but given the fact that you guys have recently starting to say "I love you" after two years, I would say give it a bit more time then have that talk that all men dread. Just be upfront and tell him how you feel about your relationship, marriage and ask him what his feelings are about marriage and whether or not he sees marriage as a potential. The only reason why I say to wait is so that he doesn't feel overwhelmed and backed into a corner since you spent two years without mentioning those 3 little words. I mean yeah, it's true that in the end "I love you" are just words and you two show each other that you love each other everyday without those words but for some guys it's a major step to even utter those words aloud. for example, my guy is an idiot. I started having conversations about marriage and after about a week, he said "the only reason that I would get married or engaged right now would be because you forced me to" and after almost 4 years of being together, that statement just about killed me. but afterwards, i realized that i gave him no choice because i backed him into a corner and he felt like he had no where to go. although, he could be the type of guy that needs assurances (fear of rejection or relationship going downhill if he does something drastic) before he does anything so that he knows your on the same wavelength. if that's the case, test the waters first. who knows maybe when you bring it up he'll be more secure and finally pop the question. My friend likes to watch "A wedding story" on TLC (I think) when her byfriend is around and say things like "oh, isn't her dress gorgeous " or "would you like something like that for your wedding?" her boyfriend usually gets the hint. as for you doing everything for him, i would suggest gradually shifting all his responsibilities back to him otherwise, he's just going to take you for granted. he needs to know that you stay and you do things for him because you love him and not because it's your job or that you have no other options. once he realizes that you're not willing to stick around forever because you're not happy with the situation, he should turn around and appreciate all the things you do for him. It is so true when the say that people want what they can't have. I always tell my friends do not settle for less than what you deserve. sorry for the long reply but I hope this helps! GOOD LUCK! __________________ ~ Amy ~ Last edited by BabyCash; 10-20-2006 at 07:18 PM.