[Bruce's_Mom]

Well as some of you know I have had this very long, intense on again off again relationship with this guy who is 25 years old...His mother has almost always been directly involved in many of our problems...Well today I had it, I think this really seals the deal that it is over forever...

As you all know I am in the process of having to appeal my bar exam results (that damn 1/2 point) so he was going to help with the process since he passed and we had been in school together, he passed, etc...I really needed his support. Well after he had cancelled our date for the day today so he could "go relax with mom" he called and telled me he was not showing up for my appeal stuff because his mom decided he shouldn't because despite this being an extremely emotional situation for me, despite the fact this whole ordeal has emotionally paralyzed me and I have not eaten or slept in days, it was more important for him to attend dinner with her and her boyfriend than to help me, and so he agreed and basically refuses help. Which I needed the support I think more than they needed him at the Old Spaghetti Factory.

This is not the only similar situation he has skipped every event with my family I have ever invited him to because she wanted him to even Christmas when my family had specially planned things to include him and he decided to just not show up with no warning to me because his mother was not on the invite list. Ditching me when a friend died and I was a wreck to help her take a couch to the salvation army. Skipping my birthday to go have drinks with her at her house etc. He has even told me mom will always be first even if we were married...

In addition she constantly comes up with mental health diagnosis for me when I am upset by these things. He allows his family to just sit around and make fun of me or call me direct names, with no defense only support for their positions...

Now today I got mad and I finally told him no I did not understand the urgency and that I thought his mom was a very selfish person as was he. Now is this wrong? Is this sort of relationship normal? Part of the reason it is so disturbing to me is I am not supposed to be upset about this, but one of our numerous break ups was because he was upset about how much I care about Bruce...Please mom's of adult sons give perspectives because if I am in the wrong I have no problem apologizing.