Quote:
|
Originally Posted by ARCHIE First let me congratulate you on becoming a mother to a skin baby.  LOL
The proper thing to do is put on the invitation the store or stores where you are registered.
When you register at whatever stores you wish they will have all the items
you choose in their data bank and when someone comes in they can pick out whatever they want from that list. It would not be proper to list items on an invitation. Good luck to you and have fun at your shower. |
From an old lady in the deep South, my congratulations to you and your family on the blessed event. Now, please don't be offended as I am not stating my own opinion, just what is considered proper for formal events celebrating the new birth.
First, we labor under the impression that a wedding shower is not a request for gifts but a celebration shared only by our dearest hundred or so friends who just wouldn't dream of coming without a present for the new treasured baby. No registry or anything remotely suggesting that you expect a present would be on or in the invitation. However, all of the guests who will very properly rsvp will inquire of the hostess, who will just happen to know exactly what you might want or appreciate receiving. If they are so considerate as to tell her what it would give them great joy to present the new young family with, she will, of course, not mention that item to another person so that you would not receive duplicate items.
Second then, the event is never hosted by a family member, because they will also, of course, be so surprised that someone would care enough to personally select a present that you just dearly love and would never have expected. And how delighted you are that they know you so well and/or took their own time to choose exactly what you most wanted.
Usually these formal teas are hosted by the maid of honor and female wedding attendants, house party or close friends at the home of whoever has the finest china and silver and most spacious formal receiving areas. The invitations will be engraved and the envelopes hand addressed by whomever is the the most talented in the dying art of calligraphy. There would be no other enclosure than the rsvp card & envelope personally addressed and stamped.
The corsage and floral arrangements are given to the bride to make her waiting days more comfortable or to welcome the new arrival to his new home. The hostesses also usually give a quite nice shower present.
I have to add, that even in our small town, these events are becoming more rare, as the younger generation embraces the computer printed invitations and other very practical modern conveniences.
I'm not even saying one way is better, just enjoyed remembering the way it was and still is sometimes done. Of course, everyone had to wear their very best Sunday clothes and the bride also spent many hours trying to find just the perfect gift for each hostess ( and sometimes there were many hostesses to share the expense and work since these Southern teas could become quite expensive)
I'm afraid I just enjoyed reminiscing on your post. Please forgive me if I have in any way been offensive. It certainly wasn't my intention. I hope you have a wonderful shower and a beautiful perfect baby. God bless you.