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Originally Posted by Rockster's Mom Help my MIL is driving me crazy. My MIL is have a hard time dealling with fact that her grand-daughter does not live with her anymore. Up until the past couple weeks she has been fine. But ever since my step daughter stayed a week with her grandparents while we were on our honeymoon things have been bad. My MIL is constantly crying and saying how much she misses my step-daughter and she is having a hard time handling this. This woman sees her grand-daughter every Tuesday night (swim class) and every other weekend (use to be every week, but we never got to do anything as a family so that changed). That is more than most grandparents do!! I knew when I my step daughter moved in with us that it was going to be a major adjustment for everyone, but come on enough allready the big move happened back in May. I would think my MIL would have delt with this by now. I am trying to be sympathic but my MIL is not helping herself. She works at home, and never leaves house unless to run an errand or so. She has molded her life completely around my step-daughter, to the point she has no hobby's, activity's, or friends. Heck, she won't even go to church unless my step daughter is going with her. I have made several suggestions to help her but she just dismisses them. I am really getting tried of hearing her whine and cry about this all of time. I am to the point of telling to her "get over it, and get a life", but I know that would be rude. She is not realizing that her grand-daughter wants a family with a mom and dad that does things with her besides the normal everyday stuff and sitting at home., and she wants to go play with her friends inlieu of hanging out at her grandma's all by her self. I don't know what to do any more. Do ya'll have any ideas on how to help my MIL instead of my idea of knocking some sense into her? |
Personally I don't think this is up to you, your husband needs to step up and deal with his mom. She needs to understand that now you have your own family and she can't be there 24hrs/day or have your step daughter be there. Maybe he just needs to talk to her about that and suggest she go on a vacation.