We've been together for 25 years and I can honestly say that we don't fight...no, we're not in denial...we just don't fight, it's not worth it. I don't know that we really have any secrets but here are a few things that work for us.
1. Never go to bed mad, calmly discuss the issue at hand and get over it.
2. Respect each other's opinions, thoughts, hopes and dreams.
3. Take interest in the other's hobbies and have mutual hobbies you share.
4. Learn the art of compromise.
5. Don't react to things...stop, think and act upon them.
6. Help each other around the house.
7. Spend quality time together but make sure you always live in a house with 2 bathrooms.
8. If he snores too loud just go sleep on the couch without waking him up...that's part of the art of compromise.
9. Whoever has the checkbook is the boss...my husband hasn't written a check in years!
10. Don't be selfish with your time...make sure you have enough for each other but when times are lean because of work or something like that be patient and look forward to the time you will have together again, you'll appreciate it more.
This is probably the most important thing to remember. Love changes over time...it's not always the googly eyed, in heat, kissy face kind of love you feel when you're a teenager. Over time love deepens, it grows into appreciation, trust, faith, friendship, respect, security, contentment and so much more. If you feel your love changing don't run or feel like things are coming to an end...it's just the next stage and you should welcome it with an open heart...and...if you do it all correctly you just might end up with that googly eyed, in heat, kissy face kind of love it all started with!