[IluvLucy]

I got out of a very bad first marriage and met my second husband a couple of years later. He had never been married and had no children. I had 2 boys. We dated 7 years before we got married. Not lived together, dated! I wanted to be absolutely certain of what I was getting into the second time around. The entire time we dated, and the entire time we were married before his death, we talked about any and everything. He didn't have a good relationship with his parents and I am very family oriented. We were always considerate of each other. My parents have now been married nearly 55 years and he told me he wanted what they have. I believe you should behave after you're married the way you did before you married. Just because you win someone's hand in marriage doesn't mean you get to keep it forever. You both have to work for it and want it.