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Originally Posted by DianaB My daughter had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and she wanted left alone for a while too. She didn't want people to come up and voice their concerns for her. Her emotions were too much on edge. She's talking about it now but still doesn't want a lot of people to know about it.
A card or flowers sent at home would be nice. In a week or more give her a hug and ask how she's doing and really listen. Don't be afraid after a period of time to let her talk about it. It is healing for her.
When you have a miscarriage it's a very personal thing to happen. It's hard for someone who hasn't experienced it to understand. To those going through it it's a death and they need time to grieve. Don't pretend that it never happened. Let her take the lead on how much that she wants to share, but let her talk, as I said it is healing for her. Don't expect her to be "over it" very quickly, as I said, give her time to grieve (which could be months).
Be sensitive to her loss. Don't point out cute babies, talk about your expecting friend, show a baby gift that you bought for a friend, and etc. Those things are reminders to her of what she's lost.
I hope that some of the things that I've said are helpful. Because I, too, have had a miscarriage. |
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter losing her child, and you also. While I've never been pregnant or had a miscarriage, growing up my mother had 3
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very sick, and it was a miracle she had my sister and I. It devestated her and our entire family each time it happened. It really is a death of a loved one.