I know it can be so frustrating, but please take a deep breath and tell yourself you'll give it one more good try. Make sure the crate is only big enough for her to lay and turn around. Depending on how much she weighs I would not let her have food after 7:00 PM unless it was a dab of nutri-cal. Let her have water, but then take her out or to the pad, whatever it is you use. Take her out again right before you go to bed. If you could leave a radio on or something for her would be good. She could be afraid by herself and urinates. First thing in the morning take her to do her business, eat, play for a few minutes then take her to do her business again. Then put her in the crate. Just be very, very persistant and give it one more try. If you don't have an x-pen I would really recommend getting one. I'm hoping things can work out for you, but if not, you have to do what you feel is right. Situations can be very similiar, but only you know what you can handle. Best of luck!!!