{{hugs}} to you, Sebastiansmom. I understand your pain because I once had to do the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking. The people who got my golden did keep in touch, and I know I did the "right" thing. My baby was healthy, happy, well loved, and spoiled. I hope the same for Sebastian. And though it doesn't feel like it now, it does get easier.
I think it's sweet when our children try to comfort us. He's certainly a compassionate child
God speed on your mother's recovery.
Deb