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Originally Posted by bettyeanne As some of you know [and a lot of you don't], my precious Mother has been in very poor health for some years now. About the last three years she has been in constant pain ... we lost her on July 18 [just 10 days after her 90th birthday and on the day that my Toto turned 3 years]. I cannot tell you how lost and empty I feel. Even though I know that she is no longer suffering and I know that sweet, gentle soul is finally happy with my Daddy in heaven ... I still have those moments when I am so selfish that I can hardly stand it. I just want her back and it's so strange, at those moments, I can hear her voice as plain as anything I have ever heard ... "You are my good child", she would tell me. I hear it every time I face a difficult decision in finalizing all those things that must be done ... and knowing that is the reason she chose me for these tasks. It's difficult to carry out her wishes and to be civil to those who broke her heart ... but, I was raised by two of the most wonderful parents in the world and ... I can do this!!
For those of you who still have one or both your parents ... never, ever miss an opportunity to hug them and tell them that you love them. In their twilight years they feel so "unnecessary" and it's up to us to make them feel like the most important person in our lives ... because they are! |
First of all I am so very sorry to read this post,I too feel your pain but in slightly different circumstances,I lost both my parents within 5 months when I was 8 yrs old Im 44 now and all my life I have said to my friends cherish your parents while you have them as you never know what you have lost till you lose it.I feel so sorry for you as I couldnt imagine the pain of losing my mother as an adult.No amount of comforting does it you just have to feel the pain and Its only because you loved her so much that you feel so much pain.Take the time to grieve and I really wish you peace and like me hang on to the precious memories your mother has left you with.