I'm so sorry you are having problems with your brother
And I'm really not sure on what to tell you to do as my youngest brother is 30 and my kids are just 16 and 13. But I would say that if your brother wants to disrespect your home like that, it might be a good time to "tighten the screws" on him and make some new rules. Afterall, it is YOUR home that you are providing a roof over his head. If you want no one there after a certain time of night, then tell him and if he doesn't abide by it, then you make them leave - tell them it is your home, you have to work the next day (or school or whatever you do each day) and you need your rest. As for the trash they leave behind, bag it up and then dump it on his bed - he'll get the hint before too long. If he wants to leave the trash behind, he can sleep with it! I know, this may sound harsh but drastic times takes drastic measures. Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way that you find the patience and strength to deal with your brother
