Ok, I understand completely how you'd be upset or even confused. My dad died when I was eleven but I have his last name. He was my hero and a great father. but My real mom is the one I have BIG issues with. She's alive but I haven't seen her in fourteen years I think? I've spoken to her a couple of times but I can't stand her.
My advise is this... her "dad" is fine with it. Even if he does have to sign off on it, at least your daughter will be much happier. You shouldn't care how he feels about it, and I understand you don't want her to regret it later, but I can tell you this. She doesn't like him now, she probably never will. I would let her change it.
I too have a step dad (my step mom remarried after my daddy died) and I consider him my dad now. My real dad is my daddy, and my step dad is my dad. I understand her calling him a sperm donor cause that's exactly how he's acting and what he is. To be a dad you have to actually be active in that persons life. He isn't. You have every right to be ticked at him. But Please let your daughter change her last name. If I had my real moms last name I'd be miserable. I hate her with a passion. so for your daughters comfort and peace of mind I say go for it. It shouldn't cost that much. |