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yougetthesmiles · 08-06-2006, 04:51 PM

I know you all have heard of me talk about my 16 yr old, I have a question for you all.
She has pretty much nothing to do with her real dad, he does not bother to contact her, she dosent go over to see him at all and he seems to really not care. Now my other 2 children are by the same man, we were married 11 yrs and he does see them on his everyother weekend but never calls them. He is remarried and now has 2 more children. The reason my oldest does not see him is cause of his new wife, she constantly belittles me in front of the kids and Branda wants nothing to do with her. It's like this lady is threatened by me, even though I left him and want nothing to do with him and I'm happily re-married.
So my oldest daughter calls him (her dad) "sperm donor" when someone ask her, "so how is your dad doing?" she will say, "ohh you mean the sperm donor?" She has asked to have her last name changed and her real dad told her that what ever she wanted to do was fine with him. She even asked if she can call her step dad, "dad" and she wants to take him last name. I'm so baffled that Branda's real dad would allow this, I know she is hurt by him. On her 16th B-Day this man didnt even send her a card, or call her to wish her a happy b-day. I'm so ticked off at him that he would do this to her.
So my ??? to you all is, should I let her change her last name? And would her real dad have to sign off on her? And where do we go to do this? The court house?
and will she regret this when she gets older? I'm torn!

08-06-2006, 04:51 PM	#1
yougetthesmiles BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 9,295 Blog Entries: 3	Dealing with the EX I know you all have heard of me talk about my 16 yr old, I have a question for you all. She has pretty much nothing to do with her real dad, he does not bother to contact her, she dosent go over to see him at all and he seems to really not care. Now my other 2 children are by the same man, we were married 11 yrs and he does see them on his everyother weekend but never calls them. He is remarried and now has 2 more children. The reason my oldest does not see him is cause of his new wife, she constantly belittles me in front of the kids and Branda wants nothing to do with her. It's like this lady is threatened by me, even though I left him and want nothing to do with him and I'm happily re-married. So my oldest daughter calls him (her dad) "sperm donor" when someone ask her, "so how is your dad doing?" she will say, "ohh you mean the sperm donor?" She has asked to have her last name changed and her real dad told her that what ever she wanted to do was fine with him. She even asked if she can call her step dad, "dad" and she wants to take him last name. I'm so baffled that Branda's real dad would allow this, I know she is hurt by him. On her 16th B-Day this man didnt even send her a card, or call her to wish her a happy b-day. I'm so ticked off at him that he would do this to her. So my ??? to you all is, should I let her change her last name? And would her real dad have to sign off on her? And where do we go to do this? The court house? and will she regret this when she gets older? I'm torn!