I am sure that you have known people who like to gossip- will be told something whether it is fact or fiction and spread it on to others. Some of these folks will add their own twist on to the story.
The IMO the adult way to handle situations is to talk with the person look at all the facts and then make a decision. When someone makes a decision because a friend of theirs does not like you is sad.
I admire Ann- she was contacted by a third person and told some things about me that needed to be confirmed. We spoke- I was up front about why this person would " stir the pot". I spoke of my goals and dreams and expectations. I feel that I made a new friend of Anne and a wonderful contact. She will be able to help me with the information that I need on breeding the girls with her bloodlines.
Many of the folks here on YT know of my legal issue with another breeder.
I had a suit filed against me and filed a countersuit. My deposition was taken about a week or so ago. The suit has to due with contracts- the legality of those contracts and misrepresentations that are in the contracts written by the breeder.
There have been several folks who have seen the contracts and what and why I am fighting this nonsense. One party in particular was alarmed because this same breeder had caused her undue grief in a situation that had some of the same patterns of behavior.
Is there more that I can do against this breeder-and the third party friends yes there is- when third parties contact others by- email and try to harm me they can be dragged into this lawsuit. When they are stating information that pertains to the deposition and what they are stating is untrue. The only person who would have been able to tell them anything fact or fiction is the breeder who filed the lawsuit. If any of these folks are members of the Parent club- all the things that have been done that Violate The Code of Ethics and behaviors can be reported. Violations against the rules and regulations of the AKC rules can be reported to the many different departments.
For example lets say someone wants to become a Judge with the AKC- I have been told that I could submit examples to the Judicial branch of the AKC of this person's behavior and how that could reflect on them as a Judge and the reputation of the AKC. The AKC will determine if the documentation that I have is worthy of consideration and will ask this person for their side of the story. You can't just say- so and so did this- you have to have the documented proof.
It can all become rather ugly and messy- when there is no reason to drag it threre. There are more reputatiions other then my own that will be drug in the mud. I had tried to be respectful and not say names and give specific instances.
That is why I have a attorney and try my best to let him do his job. That was what he was paid for. Hard at times to keep my silence and to not let everyone hear my side of the story and see all my documentation, tell them the story of the other person who was harmed by this breeder. If the other party does not decide to drop the suit- then this will go before a Jurry for them to decide. I asked for a Jurry trial. Everything will then come out all the documents will be there for all to see.
Boy would I love to have a class on contracts 101 here on YT- talk about the pitfalls and what you need to look for. |