I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. Break-ups suck. My take on it (and I by no means consider myself an expert) is that your fiance has been thinking about this for a while and agonizing over when to tell you. If it came out of the blue and not during a big fight, that means he has been contemplating this for some time and it wasn't an over night decision. Once most people have given something a tremendous amount of thought and made a decision, it's usually done.
That said, my best advice to you is to give him total space. Don't be psycho girl and call him every 5 minutes begging him to take you back. You will only look back later and regret that. Let him miss you. If he calls wanting to talk, good...do it like a rational person. Admit your own faults, but don't take on on the problems as your fault just because you are desparate to work things out. It's a two way street. If it doesn't work out, that's how it's supposed to be. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and make yourself a stronger person because of it. These things are real learning experiences and really help you get to know yourself and understand behaviors you need to work on to get along in the world, as hard as it is to take right now.
Many times on hindsight you look back and say, "whew, that was a close one...if I had married him, I would have never met the most wonderful man in the world, my soulmate". Although I believe in fate, and that things happen for a reason, I also believe that YOU make your own choices. Choose the right path, don't make stupid decisions or let your emotions make them for you. Things will work out. I only wish the best for you! |