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Originally Posted by Kathryn_V Jen your killin me here! lol Your too nice... I just love my babies!!!! You all would do the same!!! I know you would!!!
Hey! I have news for you!!!!! Some of you may or may not know... I also have a 14 year old step son who lives with his mom, and an 8 year old son who now lives with his father. His name is Garrett.
Garrett went to live with my ex-husband, his dad, when he was 5. It was the hardest decision I have EVER had to make. My Father has schizophrenia, and my son started showing symptoms at age 4.. He is the youngest documented case in the US.. I had him at Loma linda Pediatric Psychiatric Unit as an inpatient for 3 weeks of observation. Any way... long story short... Garrett needs an invironment that is very regimented and predictable... Which is the total opposite of my personality and life... No matter how hard I may have wanted to, I was not equipped to parent my son the way he needed. His father on the other hand... was a total drag... he poops the same time everyday, eats the same time, even brushes his teeth at the same time each night! It drove me nuts!!! He was exactly what Garrett needed! So I offered Full physical Custody to my ex, who was thrilled! and we kept joint legal... Garrett is Maintained on many Medications, and doing amazing... His IQ is unbelievable! He is one for the books this kid!!! anyway....So that explains the whole why my son does not live with me thing.... I had to explain it... I love all of you here on YT and I would just die if you were left to draw your own conclusions.... I love him so much!! As hard as that decision was to make... it was also one of the easiest decisions to make... It was what he needed.... And I tell myself that every time I have him for a weekend... Its hard to send him home...  |
I bet it must be very hard for you. But you did the best thing. A selfish parent may have put their feelings first and kept Garrett with them. But you put his needs and feelings first -- even at great cost and pain to you. What can I say ... everything new I hear just makes me respect you more. I know it must be super hard for you but maybe in the future, he'll be well enough to come in. I just watched those 2 vidoes ... both of your children are so beautiful and GENTLE - wow! I can't believe how gentle and well behaved with Cali and Pixie they are!