It seems like your husband is emotionally abusing you, and any kind of abuse in any relationship is not acceptable. If this has been going on for years he is not going to change no matter how much he needs to or tries to. If he is like that towards you, he might treat your children in a similar manner. My father was also emotionally abusive, and he still is. My mom never left him because he wasn't physically violent. My father ended up seriously damaging my self esteem with his relentless (and unjustified) criticisms. I am still trying to heal. Ever since I can remember I always wished they would get divorced so I could live with my mom.
Do whatever is going to make YOU happy because when you are happy your children will be too.
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