Awwww, nobody? I spoke with a trainer yesterday and read up on clicker training. I found a really good site-
http://www.clickerlessons.com/index.htm if anyone is interested in clicker training. Bought my clicker today and I'm ready to go. If after a month or so we still have issues, I'll call the trainer in. I came up with something that seems to be working with the barking at my hubby issue. When he gets nasty with hubby, my husband says; bad Sugar, in a stern voice, then I put him down (from my lap or from the bed) and ignore him for a minute, then I pick him up and we praise him for not barking. This has worked twice now so I'm hopeful.