 Wow!
I am so sorry that what should be such a happy time in your life is now so difficult for you. Please hang in there - it sounds like your little one has such a loving mummy that things will work out with time.
Only thing I can think to suggest is to stay open and not draw too many assumptions about his behaviours just yet (meaning that he likes your husband more at the moment because he reacts in such a way when he arrives home) - what I'm trying to say is something along the lines a DW might tell you - such as don't attibute human reactions to dog behaviours.
One of my dogs and I both came through a shared traumatic experience and it took a long time for things to turn around. Looking back, I think it was my intense need to have things back to the way they were before the event that the dog sensed - and it made him anxious. As I learned to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop and my own skin stopped crawling around on my bones - my dog responded better to me.
I found that it was best to tackle one obsticle at a time. Maybe try reaclimating the pup to loud noises by carrying him in a blanket in your arms a bit each day to get use to the cars. When it's time to go pee - find a corner with two walls and bend down to encourage him.
Be patient. Talk softly and maybe just lie on the floor next to the closet, glancing every so often at little boy in a reassuring manner. When you are both ready - try to gently stroke his back with light firm strokes.
I currently have a pup that is not a cuddler - she was three weeks ago when she first arrived but now is growing very self assured and prefers to sit near me rather than on me. Honestly - my initial reaction is to feel rejected (isn't it everyone's dream to have a little furbaby to cuddle!) but I am happy she is a confident little devil with a will of her own. Ruby lies at my feet too and won't lie on my pillow as she once did - so I just grab my pillow and switch ends and lie with my head at the foot of my bed! Thank-goodness my husband is on the road most weeks as he thinks I'm nuts!
I'm not sure if any of this is any use to you but I wanted to reach out because I've been thinking about you all day. You and your family are in our prayers!
Ruby and Roxy send yorkie kisses! |