thank you all for your funny and informative suggestions. Both the boys know I'm sensitive about the dog and his training so they are working on being nicer. They both came in last night and talked to me about the dog. So at least they know I'm unhappy about the yelling and such that they do while I train a different (BETTER) way. hehe
He DOES know the quiet command it is just a matter of how long.... so we'll work on it.
Thank you all. I have just had a couple of hard days. Hopefully good things lay ahead.
for helping me out
