Sounds like we are in the same boat with Dawn, Lily's Mom! Toto
allows us to share a small portion of her bed!! Since we have Toto, we have been buying wider beds and now have the widest that we could find and we still sometimes sleep with our butts hanging off!!!
I love the description that 011011 gave, they
are like sandbags! And Toto loves us both so much that it's like she tries to give us equal time! We constantly wake and feel around to see where she is so we don't squash her!