[Ponyup]

I think what some people seem to forget is it takes work from both people. I think conseling is a great idea, but if he won't go what then. Or if you try to talk about things & he ignores you or I believe you said you goes to the garage what are supposed to do. I was raised that marriage is forever, however if he were unhappy I would want him to talk to me about it. And if there was nothing I could do to make him happy then I would want him to find happiness elsewhere. I love him to much to have him be miserable just for my sake.

I know how your feeling though. I have dreams about an ex all the time, but I know it's not right & the best person for me is my husband. He's my best friend & the only person I can spend 24-7 with without wanting to kill them. He's the first I want to tell something good are bad too.

Just make sure you really don't love him. Love changes after marriage. It's no longer a silly feeling in your stomach or passion (well I guess it can be, but not in my case). It's more about friendship, respect, trust, & adoration. If you honestly don't love him then it's not fair to him or you or the kids.

However, I do know that I went through a period of about a month when I thought I had fallen out of love with my husband. I was almost ready to tell him that I wasn't in love with him anymore. I was trying to get the courage to tell him when the feeling went away. I know you've been feeling this way for longer so I would imagine it just won't go away, but maybe try & reclaim the magic. Do things you enjoyed doing when you first got together & see if that spark comes back.

But please dont' leave him because someone else looks better, that never works out the way you think it will.