To add further drama to my already incredibly wierd life, my mom has been a paranoid schizophrenic most of her life. I don't talk about it much because I am so used to it that it really doesn't affect me much anymore. I have as good a relationship with her as I can. She lives in a facility where she is independent, but if she needed help, someone would be there for her.
My mom and my sis have been estranged for a year, ever since my sis and bro wanted to try to take mom in for a medical and mental evaluation and she refused to go and was abusive and evil to them.
So when Renee was diagnosed, I asked her to call mom and tell her. She tried, but mom wouldn't answer the phone (caller ID). So Ren called me and asked me to call. I told my mother, and then Ren called her.
So NOW my mom wants to be at the hospital when Ren gets her operation tomorrow. Ren says she's OK with that, as long as mom doesn't get too wierd with her family. I don't want my mother to go. I already told her she really should stay home, but I have no control over it, being 875 miles away from them. My brother intends to be at the hospital, and my mom is really hateful to him and I just know she is going to cause problems. I hate this that I can't be there to try to keep things calm and quiet and distract my mother so she doesn't try to make this all about her. I already told her that she needs to concentrate on the fact that this is NOT about her, it's about Ren, and she shouldn't start any trouble. I am certain she is pissed at me for saying that, but dang, I couldn't just not say anything. I really don't want her to go.
So I am going to suffer a bunch tomorrow thinking about everyone and wondering how everything is going. I will be in constant touch with my brother, and hopefully all will be OK. I sure hope Ren comes through the operation with ALL the cancer gone, and nothing more needed.
Keep that positive energy coming!!!! We really need it!!!!
