I have read this entire thread and I must admit, it has been an ordeal for you. I really do respect your integrity as a buyer with this little male. Your determination and strength thru out this issue is commendable.
I went thru something similar over 20 years ago....lady sold me two puppies open papers, only to find a big defect with one of the puppies. In her pitch about the puppies, was that I could breed them, they were both females. (I never did or ever wanted to breed) Anyway, I called her with the info and she said...."I do not give refunds, you bought the puppy". Well, needless to say, after our phone conversation, she was willing to take the puppy back and I stopped payment on the ck." If she would have been upfront with the defect, I may have handled the purchase differently.
Lesson learned on my end, and I will never buy or recommend her as a seller, but she still does very well with her breeding program.....I just dont understand it.
As far as your breeder with this little male, the issue is as much that she is a friend, and with friends we tend to expect them to treat us with the utmost care....I tend to put my friends on a pedestal.
Sorry that you had to deal with all of this in the first place.