i cant really help either...... i am familiar with cancer (more then i would like) but it sounds pretty advanced. If you are in doubt of the doctors recomendations for treatment you could always get a second opinion. I really am sorry
i lost my 3 and a half year old neace to luekemia just recently.
My aunt was diasnosed with ovarian cancer (which they said had spread) and that she was only going to live 6 months (with treatment)........... well.......... that was 20 someodd years ago and she decided NOT to take any treatment.... and she hasnt been to the doctor at all in twenty years
. We were incredibly firghtened that the cancer had returned because she was having pains/bleeding/ect.... but thank god it was only a gall bladder infection