Your 11 year old is a typical middle child and at the perfect age to know just which buttons to push and has no conscience about pushing them. That will just take time and patience, and not letting her know she is pushing your buttons.
As for your "wife in law" I would also suggest that you talk to your ex about this all alone. You may also want to consider family counseling. But keep in mind that your ex might be just has hurt by your oldest daughters rejection as you are by the middle childs rejection. |